How to Help Someone When They Are Grieving
By Andrea Gonzalez
Published on July 7, 2025
Grief, death, and loss are not topics we talk about often enough. This silence leads to awkwardness and uncertainty when someone close to us is mourning. Many of us want to help, we just don’t know how.
At a time when sincere human connection is most needed, too many of us stay at a surface level. But it’s never too late to change that. With patience and compassion, we can become more supportive and present for those around us who need help.
As licensed clinical psychologists in Miami, Baypoint Counseling Center has helped many people navigate loss—both personally and as a supportive presence. Here's how you can too.
What Not to Say or Do
Even with good intentions, some responses to grief can come across as dismissive or hurtful. If you want to be a source of comfort, avoid these two common pitfalls:
1. Avoiding the Topic
Ignoring grief doesn’t make it go away. The grieving person needs acknowledgment. Reach out, even if you're unsure what to say. A simple, “I’m thinking of you and I’m here to talk anytime” can mean the world.
2. Using Clichés
Phrases like “Stay strong”, “They’re in a better place”, or “It’s time to move on” could seem comforting but often feel invalidating. Instead of trying to “fix” the pain, try to focus on being present and supportive.
How to Truly Help Someone Who Is Grieving
Keep the Focus on Them
It’s natural to want to share your own stories, but this moment is about their loss. Let them talk, reflect, cry, or be silent. Whatever they need, follow their lead.
Be an Active Listener
You don’t need the perfect words. What matters is listening with patience and without judgment. Sometimes, your quiet presence is the greatest gift you can give.
Respect Their Space—But Stay Close
Grief can be overwhelming. Some people may ask for space, and it’s important to respect that. But don’t disappear. Gentle check-ins go a long way in helping someone feel less alone.
Don’t Vanish After the Funeral
Often, the hardest part comes after the services, when everyone else has returned to their routine. That’s when ongoing support is most needed. Keep reaching out, weeks and even months later.
When to Suggest Grief Counseling
Grief is complex. While it’s a natural process, some people struggle to cope or feel stuck. That’s when therapy can help.
At Baypoint Counseling Center in Miami, we offer compassionate, professional support for those facing loss. Whether you’re grieving or want to learn how to support someone who is, therapy offers a safe, healing space.