Have you experienced a loss in your life that has created deep pain and sadness? Have you:
● Recently lost a spouse, partner, child, parent, sibling, or friend?
● Have you had a miscarriage and are feeling the loss of a pregnancy?
● Are you going through the pain of a divorce, grieving the relationship you thought you had?
● Have you undergone a major life transition in which you have lost your country of origin due to a forced migration?
● Have you lost a pet that was very dear to you?
Grief, loss and bereavement can deplete you of energy, may create extreme sadness, and can lead you to isolate. Some people find it very hard to go back to work or be productive in any way.
Sometimes, in addition to or instead of sadness, people who grieve can also experience anger, guilt, regret and may constantly think about their loss. They may also feel confused and have trouble concentrating.
Physical symptoms can also show up, as body aches, low energy, fatigue, and stomach problems. Weight can fluctuate as well, as appetite changes in response to the emotional ups and downs.
Grief is a natural reaction to loss
We all have grieved or will grieve in our life span. Loss is something that has happened or will happen to all of us, and having an emotional reaction to it is normal and healthy.
Some people prefer to grieve alone, choosing not to share their emotions with others and finding comfort in their solitude. Others need to be surrounded by loved ones more than ever when they are mourning. You may also feel like you alternate between these two styles of grieving.
When we react to any type of loss, we experience GRIEF. When this is in reaction to the death of a loved one, it is BEREAVEMENT. However, no one has to die in order for us to experience grief and loss. Whenever we end a relationship for any reason, are going through a divorce, or a big move to a new city or country, we can experience extreme grief.
People respond to grief in different ways
The way we grieve depends on many factors, such as how close we were to the person we lost,
what our cultural background is, our belief system and past history of loss or trauma.
We also grieve differently depending on what else is going on in our lives. For instance, are
there other stressors that complicate the grief? Do we have social support? Are we healthy, or
dealing with our own health issues? Grieving also has a strong cultural component, as our
culture teaches us to grief in one way or another.
Grieving is a process that can last a lifetime, depending on the type of loss, but the degree to
which these emotions take over our lives can morph over time. Some people resume their life
pretty fast after a loss, others take a long time to do so.
There are many models that describe the grieving experience. One of these models, described
by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in 1969, describes 5 stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining,
Depression, and Acceptance. Although Kubler-Ross was particularly working with people facing
their own mortality, these stages can apply to the different phases of grief. However, they are
not always in this order, as people can go from feeling a sense of denial to acceptance, and
back again to denial.
It’s normal to also experience moments of joy in between the sadness
Grieving is not always continuous. Our tendency to survive will result in moments where you
seem to be ok, and may even feel like you have come out of the dark hole, only to find yourself
back in it shortly after. An anniversary, a birthday, the holidays, or even just a memory that pops
up into our mind can lead one back into that feeling of sadness again.
I can’t seem to shake this off, and it’s been a while…
Grieving is complicated, and sometimes, depending on the loss, we never recover from it fully.
Around 7% to 10% of adults experience a type of bereavement that is more persistent and lasts
for more than a year without any improvement, usually affecting the way they function in life.
Prolonged Grief is a condition where the person grieving feels:
● A disruption in their identity
● A sense of disbelief about the death
● Avoidance of reminders of the deceased
● Intense emotional pain and sadness
● Difficulty going back to their normal life with friends, interests, or future plans
● Emotional numbness
● Loss of meaning of life
● Severe loneliness
Grief and Loss Therapy can help you overcome your loss and start to heal…
Grief therapy can help by creating a space to process all your emotions and in which to manage your own expectations. Coming out of grief involves redesigning your life without the person, pet, place or object you lost. Therapy can help you through that process.
Grief therapy can also help you challenge some of the beliefs that may keep you stuck where you are, and that may be leading to feelings of guilt, regret or anger. Utilizing Cognitive Behavioral Tools, our therapists will help you think in more healthy ways that will alleviate your emotions and help you start a new life, a life with loss, but nevertheless with purpose, joy and fulfillment .
Whether you choose to work in individual, group therapy, or both, our therapists will tailor make your treatment plan, taking into account all the things that make your grieving unique. You will experience a safe, compassionate and empathic environment, in which to process your loss no matter what that loss has been.
It may feel like life will never be the same without your loved one, however, the therapists at
Baypoint Counseling Center, can help you start to live life again. Loss transforms us forever,
but it leaves wisdom and maturity. Life with joy is possible after loss.
Grief counseling can help you work on acceptance of the loss, on feeling the pain and processing the grief verbally and emotionally with the assistance of a therapist, to adjust to a new life without the lost loved one, or the new circumstance such as in divorce, loss of a job or migration. Finally, grief therapy can help you to maintain a connection to the loss, while also moving on with your life.
But can’t I just do this alone; most people do?
While it is true that many people do not go to therapy to deal with their loss, sometimes they do
not fully process their pain, resulting in issues later on. For example, they may fear getting close
to people, or they may experience a shift in their approach to life, being unable to feel fully
themselves or to truly experience and a sense of joy.
Grief is also different for everyone and we all have had different life experiences before the loss,
which can make it harder or—in some cases—easier to cope with the new loss. A person who
had lost a parent or other close relative at a young age, will grieve the loss of a loved one
differently than someone who has never experienced a loss.
I can’t even leave my house; how can I start therapy?
If at this moment taking a shower and getting ready seems like an insurmountable thing, we can start with online sessions. Baypoint Counseling Center provides secure, private, HIPAA-compliant virtual sessions, where you can start to heal from the comfort of your home.
Therapy is expensive and I can’t afford it right now.
Whether it is joining a group that is less expensive per session, spreading out your sessions or working with a therapist who offers reduced rates, Baypoint Counseling Center will identify the best way to help you heal.
I’m ready to start. What’s next?
No loss is too small or too unimportant to warrant getting help to cope with it. Our therapists will understand your loss, no matter how big or how small.
Call today for your FREE 15-minute consultation and determine what is the best approach for you right now. Whether you choose individual or group therapy to cope with your loss, the therapists at Baypoint Counseling Center are eager to help you.
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